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 Post subject: The Language of Love
PostPosted: Mon May 23, 2011 8:57 pm 
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http://www.scientificamerican.com/artic ... P_20110523
The Language of Love: Word Usage Predicts Romantic Attraction
By Melinda Wenner Moyer | May 23, 2011
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What distinguishes a fling that ends in tears from long-term love? Past research suggests that the most successful couples share common interests, values and personality traits. Now new research published in Psychological Science proposes that the simplest words lovebirds use to speak to each other also make a difference—both in determining how attracted they are and how likely they are to stay together.

James Pennebaker and his colleagues at the University of Texas at Austin recorded 40 men and 40 women as they participated in a speed-dating exercise in which they talked to 12 strangers of the opposite sex for four minutes apiece. [For more on how Pennebaker uses function words to reveal personality and other traits, see “You Are What You Say,” by Jan Dönges; http://www.scientificamerican.com/artic ... at-you-say Scientific American Mind, July/August 2009.]

The big question is whether individuals feel more aligned to others who already talk the way they do or whether they adapt their language to match that of individuals they really like. Pennebaker admits that both are possible, but he believes the latter is the driving force: language, he says, predicts relationship success because it reflects how well couples listen to each other.

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We were just talking about some of this on http://www.evergreenbound.com.

Why is it we can't predict who we fall for? I always wish I could pick the one that I should, logically.


Communication is a big factor. Listening and being able to express is very big in relationships.

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 Post subject: Re: The Language of Love
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There's a joke in there, but this isn't "The Ring".

Communication is big, and so is the pharse "YES, DEAR!"

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